SHUT IN / SHUT OUT
If you are already a parent, do you feel you have given something up in order to be a parent?
That will definitely take up a lot of time or something else, but I think it's mutual, as children also accompany you. It depends on how you view your lifestyle. Girls may care about the pain of childbirth. But objectively speaking, there is no way to avoid it when choosing to become parents. It's not good to focus only on the alarming points
Sacrificing one's personal time, but it's not particularly negative either.
I am still single. However, as a parent, I guess I won‘t have personal time anymore, and my body will undergo significant changes. I must admit I’m afraid of this, so I‘m very willing to consider surrogacy or adoption. Surrogacy is illegal, so it’s just a dream for me. Adoption is a good thing; it can provide a child without parents with a family and also solve my problem. But I‘ve asked many guys about their views on adoption. Some of them cannot accept it; they insist on women giving birth to their children, believing that blood relation is very important. But I don’t think so，I even don’t now why its importance . So I'm still single. I want to find someone who is open-minded and compassionate.
Can't be a parent
I do not agree with the causality of this question. At present, I have sacrificed some free time, but it is not for the sake of becoming a parent, because I have to sacrifice these time, and behind these events is a two-person world that cannot realize career planning and freedom. It can be said that because I have become a parent, I have given up my career and happy two-person time.