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How do you feel about being a parent?
It's like being employed in a job without having option to resign
- as someone who hasn't married
"...being a parent juga adalah sebuah peran yang sangat mulia dan sangat signifikan atas hajat hidup seseorang. So yea big responsibilities :""
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"...being a parent is also a noble/precious roles and it is significantly important for other human being's will of life. So yea big responsibilities:""
- as someone who has privilege in making life's choices
"The idea of being a parent makes me very anxious and uncomfortable."
- as someone who choose not to be a parent
"Once it already happened, I couldn't go back."
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"The feelings about being a parent are multifaceted. From an emotional perspective: It’s happy.
From the standpoint of societal roles and ethnic responsibilities:It’s
joyful yet painful."
- as someone who choose not to be a parent
"Many responsibilities, very tired, no freedom. Requires a lot of patience, losing oneself, unable to do other things due to lack of energy."
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"I had a deeper understanding of the meaning of love and dedication."
- as someone who already has a child
"I feel honoured and incredibly lucky ... I feel full - full of joy, satisfaction, contentment, love and then the fullness and weight of the admin associated with parenthood, the ever busy mind and body."
- as someone who already has a child
"I feel a very strong solid sense of responsibility and goal to nurture and grow my child into a whole and beautiful human - a strangely strong and focused sense of direction that I didn't have before."
Do you feel differently or the same?
Why do you feel that way?
"...harus terpenuhi dengan baik untuk menjadi keluarga yg ideal"
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"...because everything (all life aspects) must be fulfilled to become ideal family"
- as someone who feels that as a woman we have to fully take care of family
"I know myself and what I want;
kids are not for me."
- as someone who choose not to be a parent
"I feel like I haven't given up anything, considering this as a process that life should go through, without regrets. "
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"I do not agree with the causality of this question. At present, I have sacrificed some free time, but it is not for the sake of becoming a parent, because I have to sacrifice these time, and behind these events is a two-person world that cannot realize career planning and freedom. It can be said that because I have become a parent, I have given up my career and happy two-person time. "
"It's at the same time the best and most natural things but also the most surreal and difficult role I've ever stepped into."
"I don't know why I never wanted to have children, but I have simply accepted that feeling early on in my life and haven´t really questioned it since, assuming it was part of who I was, and that it was my right to feel that way."